Did you ever feel vulnerable in any relationship? What were the feelings? Feelings like being weak, being attacked, being taken for granted in a relation? Yes, it is extremely normal feeling in the beginning of any relationship. In any relationship, especially new moulding relation as there is so much to learn about each other. It is always fun and easy to talk about one’s favourite things, sharing memories and achievements in life. This is how each relation builds in. However, when we start getting into deeper conversation, spend more time, it is important we also talk about our fears, disturbing life events, about weaknesses challenges in life. True, above mentioned things are emotionally stuffed and not easy to express or talk about. It will need lots of openness, honesty and that isn't that simple right?? Reasons for not being simple are there is always fear- fear that their weakness will be used as weapon by partner to attack them. Fear of being judged is critical. Revealing ones weakness, fear and insecurities will develop anxiety as we have no idea how will opposite person react to our sharing’s on sensitive issues. One must also accept we can be looked downgraded, misunderstood and also lose relation due to same. But this also one must accept that person was not worth to be in relation with us. It is ok. It is fine. We must not get into explanations to hold such relation. We must not get into guilt of sharing our real self as it would one day surface in life. Just holding on feelings to overcome this vulnerability will lead to gap in relation, you are not real self. It will develop trust issues, emotional turmoil, arguments and explanations for all the actions which is no more fun. Feelings change and parting ways happen. This leads to poor coping mechanisms- escape routes by using drugs to hide our emotions, our vulnerable feelings. Anxiety, depression, stress crops in. Is that the way we wanted our relation to grow? Is that the way we want our feelings and actions be based on others reaction and feedback? Why do we care so much for others feedback? We look for constant reassurance and confirmations from outside- from our partners. But during this process we get lost, we don't know what is right for you, what makes us happy and going well in life. “I firmly believe that being vulnerable with a larger audience is only a good idea if the healing is tied to the sharing, not to the expectations I might have for the response I get.” –Brené Brown Hence being vulnerable in a relationship means allowing your partner know you completely, to know your thoughts feelings and this is even without sharing with them. Isn't this awesome thing to happen? Not all are lucky find partner to understand likewise without expressing it exact. Vulnerability is the key to develop trust and make stronger intimate bond in relationship. Being authentic, taking smaller steps in expressing oneself, being good listener will make us strong, shine from within and believe in you more. Yes this takes courage and needs persistence. Aren't we ready to feel vulnerable and make each relation strong?